WHO ROCKS IT BEST?: MEN WEIGH IN WITH MIXED EMOTIONS By: Lauren Jillian
I was at dinner with a fine bald headed brotha, hosting some light flirting and
exceptional conversation, when he proceeded to inform me that I was ‘alright’; but
I really needed to get my hair done. Donning my Mohawk a la Kravitz, I defiantly
hipped him. My hair, glittering like a sapphire at the heart of midnight was done;
though it wasn’t cascading down my back or hanging in categories by inch like at
a beauty supply store. I think what he meant was that I needed to get over the ‘revolution’
and get a perm.
Not allowing my one dimensional date to be the spokesperson for all men, I decided
to poll some guys and see what they thought about women who don their coils. Looks
like some are getting a kick out of the kink; but then others have a different take
on the whole thing.
As droves of black females distance themselves from the mainstream, an unmistakable
confidence has emerged, unleashing an organic sexiness on the world that is both
unabashed and untamable. Salu Thomas, an African collegiate, bears a revelation
amongst men. “Women who wear their hair natural are more striking. They seem to
be untouched, on a higher ground, and I find that appealing”.
Black women of all shades are starting to take the homespun approach to beauty.
Giving the tired reigns of weaves and perms a rest, has given sistahs the opportunity
to be inventive and proactive in shaping their new identities, a’ la naturale. But
word on the street is, there’s still nothing like an old fashioned “‘round the way
girl”. Sales Representative, Tyler Ford says, “I can appreciate a woman who knows
what works for her. Sometimes a weave can make [a woman] look more feminine and
sophisticated.” Ford sites that his logic comes from its widespread popularity and
acceptance.
For most of us bred in America, you know that there are the haves and the have nots;
and it filters into everything from economic status to hair texture, which effects
the perception of beauty. The girls with the “good” hair were admired and desired,
and the other girls were left to think they need to fix the “problem” of their “have-
knots” hair. When asked what Tyler felt about women who sport their pride and beauty
via the crown, he says, “I have to respect that natural woman. She’s proud of who
she is and where she comes from. But it’s better if she’s really pretty. Everyone
doesn’t have the face to pull off such a dramatic image”. Ugh, I say!
Elijah Douglass, a multi-media artist, sheds some light on the matter. “I adore
the look of natural styles on a black woman. With all the different textures and
colors, it’s like a collage of natural possibility! There’s nothing better than
seeing a woman in her most pure state, and loving herself for it. It’s honest, it’s
funky and it’s alluring.”
Jean Carrie, a real estate broker, suggests that having a natural woman on your
arm can be a double edged sword. “On one hand, you have a lady that has character
and probably won’t disappoint in an intellectual or professional setting. On the
reverse, especially if the style she’s rocking is pushing the envelope, it’s difficult
to defend a radical point of view and stand by it unconditionally. It’s much easier
to have a generic trophy chick, though it may not be as stimulating”.
As you can see, the eternal attractiveness of the girl with straight long hair has
yet to be forgotten. But as of late, some men are feigning for the face approaching
the forefront, the natural diva; the invocation of history remixed with contemporary
style concepts – and is righteous and sexier than ever. The raw exoticism and undeniable
regality of a coif of sweet spongy coils, or a wild side swept fro, has emerged
from its mainstay in the backdrop of beauty. Men, hats off to that please!
Fierce outfit. Check! Killer shoes. Check! Accentuating accessories. Check! There’s
only one task left to complete, and that’s finding the perfect hairstyle. With natural
hair, it’s not always easy to decide which look to go with, since there are so many
selections – a good problem to have if you ask me.
Natural hair is pliable – gotta love that! Braids, twists, locks…the choices are
endless.
Well for fashion, the type of function or social event is what typically drives
a woman to a specific look in attire. For instance:
Wedding - Long or short flowing dress; generally darker colors
if an evening affair Upscale Restaurant - Short cocktail dress; or a chic suit if afterwork
Club or lounge - Designer jeans; vintage tees; a ‘Sex and the City’
type of look; or simply, pieces that reflect your personality
Alright, I know - choosing the right outfit isn’t ALWAYS that simple. But choosing
the right hairstyle can be. Just try applying “dress codes” for various functions,
or shall we call it, “Hair Codes”; and make it work for you. Here’s a quick “Hair
Code” reference for a variety of occasions.
If you’re the bride-to-be or a bridesmaid in a wedding, braids and an up-do will
gleam elegance and radiance, and will accentuate your make-up too! Summertime wedding?
Trade in your tiara and add a flower for a classic, yet trendy look. Avoid competition
with your dress and accessories, and opt for small flowers like an azalea, gardenia,
or perhaps a single bloom, like a jonquil or a white rose.
You can put your braiding skills to the test to emulate this polished hairstyle,
or if you prefer to be pampered (by someone else!) and you happen to be in the South,
check out Kiki Jordan at Natural Hair Designs in the ATL for this look.
Now, if your hair is locked, you can achieve a similar look by twirling the hair
in a French twist or a twisted bun, and allowing a few pieces to cascade gently
on the side or your face. For a little extra pizzazz, spiral the hair in the front
by setting your hair in rods (rollers), or if you’re not opposed to a little heat,
a small to medium barrel curling iron would do the trick. If you’re in the New York
area, stop by Khamit Kinks in Brooklyn, New York for this look of elegance. Got
a hot date, hosting a dinner party or attending an evening social or networking
event? Do try these up-dos that will work well when you’ve got to put your best
foot forward. Go on, showcase your poise, grace, and sophistication.
Now when you’re ready to go out and let your hair down, do just that. Let your hair
down. For a hairstyle that asserts vivacity, sass, and a carefree spirit, try twisting
your hair at night and then untwisting it in the morning for a crimped, wavy look.
For looser, larger twists, try sectioning the hair into larger sections for the
“Chubby Twist” look. If you’re like me and enjoy someone else to style your hair,
grab your jacket and purse, and head over to Khamit Kinks in Brooklyn, NY - the
place to go if you want these fun hairstyles. These carefree styles will work well
at cocktail parties or evening entertainment venues. To mix things up, slip on a
headband or add a simple hair accessory like a decorative barrette, and you’re set
for work!
Finally, it’s time to really unwind. For a more laid back and informal appearance,
try a half up do. This look sits in between the refined & elegant and the stylish
& carefree. This hairstyle will work great if you’re on vacation, at church,
or need to run a quick errand. It allows for a fashionable, I’m-still-put-together
look, with a chill vibe. If you decide to stay in the New York area just a little
bit longer, pay Tendrils Hair Spa a visit in Brooklyn, NY; it’s the salon to go
to for this style.
Ok, time for a quick recap:
Formal Evening Event - try wearing it up. Night on the Town
- try wearing it down. And because there’s always that “gray” area for Casual
events like the movies or dinner with friends, try something in between;
up and down (half up-do).
Keep it simple, sexy and fun with these great hairstyles. And whatever style you
do choose, make it totally reflect you!
June 3, 2008
Gel???
By Ms. Wes
I have a confession to make. Now I know I shouldn't be using this particular product,
but I have been a hard-core user of hair gel since I discovered it in the eighth
grade. BUT! I must say my use of this sticky stuff has waned over the years. I don't
use it as often as I did though I do use it to help keep my edges smooth (especially
when I'm wearing my hair in it's natural state). I use about two finger tips full
(cringe!) along my hair line.
I recently discovered 100% Aloe Vera hair gel through a fellow honey- Erin Shell
Anthony (who is the author of "Nappturosity- How to Create Fabulous Natural Hair
and Locs"). I have not picked up her book yet, but I am very anxious to do so- She
seems to provide very detailed information regarding natural and also transitioning
hair.
Courtesy of www.honeybrownsugar.com
June 3, 2008
Traction Alopecia: A Black Woman's Worst Nightmare
By: Ms. Wes
Over the years many of us have exposed our hair to many harsh (and not so natural)
elements. From perming to weaving, braiding and simple ponytails- our hair has been
through a lot. Even I'm guilty of over-processing and coloring- I've even tried
braided extensions! (Which I only kept for a week- I could NOT stand the pain).
To this day, I'm still a big fan of the "slicked down" ponytail. This isn't good
ladies. Traction Alopecia is very common among people (specifically women) of color.
It is a hair loss condition caused by damage to the hair follicle by constant pulling
or tension over a long period of time (For more details
click here).
Courtesy of www.honeybrownsugar.com
June 3, 2008
Goddess Zuri
By: Ms. Wes
I am a firm believer that being "natural" has much more to do with just our hair.
It is a lifestyle. A lifestyle that promotes creativity, uniqueness and originality.
I have a weakness for "one-of-a-kind" tees and earrings alike. Give me a vintage
tee, a pair of sassy earrings, lip gloss and I'm cool! One of my new favorite sites
is Goddess Zuri, she offers cute tees as
well as earrings that help exude our natural beauty. Goddess Zuri was created by
a honey named Candace, the sole creator and designer of GZ. She created the line
to be an ambassador of natural beauty. Zuri means "beautiful" in Swahili, so Goddess
Zuri is the Goddess of Natural Beauty.
After turning to the internet in search of
t-shirts and other items that spoke to her natural beauty and personal style, she
was left disappointed and frustrated EACH time (which I can understand). GZ was
created inside of this frustration. She felt that there must be other young, natural
honeys out there in search of apparel and accessories that expressed their authenticity.
All of the items sold on her site are very affordable, tees range from $22 to $25,
and earrings range from $10 to $25. Take a peek right
here! You'll be glad you did- I am!
Syesha Mercado – Final 3 of American Idol Season 7
By: Yardley Messeroux
Talented, beautiful, personable – and did you think I wasn’t going to mention it?
Natural too! This woman’s basically got it all – and how bold and sensational was
it to see her rocking her natural coily-ness, almost every episode of American Idol
Season 7! Yeah, once and a while she flattened out the coils, but 1. She had to
appeal to a very broad audience, 2. Who really knows what kind of behind the scenes
styling drama she had to deal with at the network anyway, and 3. She has the right
to switch up her style and show the versatility of her hair and image. And isn’t
that one of the things that’s so great about natural hair anyway? The limitless
creativity!
So let’s give it to Syesha Mercado for singing her heart out and looking
beautifully natural while doing it. Syesha Mercado is undoubtedly a TCR Idol, bringing
natural beauty to the forefront.
June 3, 2008
A Few Words from the Artist: Kenya Robinson
HAIRPOLITIC - The Pursuit of Nappiness, by Kenya Robinson, is a
multilayered installation piece that features the styling implements and cultural
markers of Black hair care.
"There is politics in beauty. Pretty people get more stuff. They get better jobs.
They make more money. America has a very limited idea of what is attractive. Western
culture is very black, white; good, bad. I think that’s where that turmoil comes
from."
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"[My artwork] gives people enough room to come up with their own ideas [about hair].
If I try to tell somebody how to think, it’s not going to stick, but if they see
something and somehow it connects with them; and maybe causes them to ask a question
– now that’s the purpose. I’ve had braids, a shaved head, afro, dread-locs, relaxer,
etc. Hair was so much a part of my life." ~Kenya Robinson
I was at dinner with a fine bald headed brotha, hosting some light flirting and
exceptional conversation, when he proceeded to inform me that I was ‘alright’; but
I really needed to get my hair done. Donning my Mohawk a la Kravitz, I defiantly
hipped him. My hair, glittering like a sapphire at the heart of midnight was done;
though it wasn’t cascading down my back or hanging in categories by inch like at
a beauty supply store. I think what he meant was that I needed to get over the ‘revolution’
and get a perm.
If you’re the bride-to-be or a bridesmaid in a wedding, braids and an up-do will
gleam elegance and radiance, and will accentuate your make-up too! Summertime wedding?
Trade in your tiara and add a flower for a classic, yet trendy look. Avoid competition
with your dress and accessories, and opt for small flowers like an azalea, gardenia,
or perhaps a single bloom, like a jonquil or a white rose.
Now when you’re ready to go out and let your hair down, do just that. Let your hair
down. For a hairstyle that asserts vivacity, sass, and a carefree spirit, try twisting
your hair at night and then untwisting it in the morning for a crimped, wavy look.
For looser, larger twists, try sectioning the hair into larger sections for the
“Chubby Twist” look. If you’re like me and enjoy someone else to style your hair,
grab your jacket and purse, and head over to Khamit Kinks in Brooklyn, NY - the
place to go if you want these fun hairstyles. These carefree styles will work well
at cocktail parties or evening entertainment venues. To mix things up, slip on a
headband or add a simple hair accessory like a decorative barrette, and you’re set
for work!
Finally, it’s time to really unwind. For a more laid back and informal appearance,
try a half up do. This look sits in between the refined & elegant and the stylish
& carefree. This hairstyle will work great if you’re on vacation, at church,
or need to run a quick errand. It allows for a fashionable, I’m-still-put-together
look, with a chill vibe. If you decide to stay in the New York area just a little
bit longer, pay Tendrils Hair Spa a visit in Brooklyn, NY; it’s the salon to go
to for this style.
I have a confession to make. Now I know I shouldn't be using this particular product,
but I have been a hard-core user of hair gel since I discovered it in the eighth
grade. BUT! I must say my use of this sticky stuff has waned over the years. I don't
use it as often as I did though I do use it to help keep my edges smooth (especially
when I'm wearing my hair in it's natural state). I use about two finger tips full
(cringe!) along my hair line.
Over the years many of us have exposed our hair to many harsh (and not so natural)
elements. From perming to weaving, braiding and simple ponytails- our hair has been
through a lot. Even I'm guilty of over-processing and coloring- I've even tried
braided extensions! (Which I only kept for a week- I could NOT stand the pain).
To this day, I'm still a big fan of the "slicked down" ponytail. This isn't good
ladies. Traction Alopecia is very common among people (specifically women) of color.
It is a hair loss condition caused by damage to the hair follicle by constant pulling
or tension over a long period of time (For more details 
I am a firm believer that being "natural" has much more to do with just our hair.
It is a lifestyle. A lifestyle that promotes creativity, uniqueness and originality.
I have a weakness for "one-of-a-kind" tees and earrings alike. Give me a vintage
tee, a pair of sassy earrings, lip gloss and I'm cool! One of my new favorite sites
is 
Talented, beautiful, personable – and did you think I wasn’t going to mention it?
Natural too! This woman’s basically got it all – and how bold and sensational was
it to see her rocking her natural coily-ness, almost every episode of American Idol
Season 7! Yeah, once and a while she flattened out the coils, but 1. She had to
appeal to a very broad audience, 2. Who really knows what kind of behind the scenes
styling drama she had to deal with at the network anyway, and 3. She has the right
to switch up her style and show the versatility of her hair and image. And isn’t
that one of the things that’s so great about natural hair anyway? The limitless
creativity!
